The decade is quickly ending, and thus starts a new one.
Here goes, my 24 items for change next year/quarter. PS: I realize that people don’t ever carry through their resolutions, but I’m going to provide a list of ends (goals), and means (methods) by which to achieve them. Furthermore, I will print out a contract for myself and sign it, and laminate it and post it on my door to remind myself everyday of what I’m trying to achieve in my life. Gulps. Furthermore, in making resolutions one should realize the distinction between daily resolutions, weekly resolutions, monthly resolutions, and yearly resolutions. These should all be worked on. HERE GOES:
1. Ends: Achieve independence. This means, solely by myself, I can be happy on my own, and independent enough to pursue my own goals, socialize with strangers, interact with others, and free to do my own thing. Don’t CLING to anyone in particular (and this mostly means don’t cling or get attached to get girls). Rely on solely myself for happiness and not for anyone else to provide it to me.
Means: Do things on my own. Pursue new hobbies, meet new people, and get away from the norm.
2. Ends: Healthier lifestyle. Start getting fit. Exercise.
Means: Go to RIMAC. Run in the mornings. Stick to the schedule I put in place. Less snacks. No to alcohol indefinitely.
3. Get organized.
Means: Stick to my schedule (not too strictly), Keep my room clean. Keep my homework organized. Make sure I have time for everything – a balanced life of fun, socialization, schoolwork, etc. Blog every Friday on a regular basis (maybe 2 next quarter).
4. Ends: Be more generous.
Means: Community Service, give advice, give smiles, be friendlier to people, always find a way to try to help other people
5. Means: Accept things that you can’t change in life. (Rejection, etc.)
Ends: Accepting failure, and rejection will make my life much better, because it means I can move on from that point further. By just getting on with life instead of dwelling in the past or what just happens, you can thus move forward.
6. Ends: Optimism.
Means: Don’t dwell in depressive states. Keep busy so I don’t have to think about anything sad or overburdening.
7. Ends: Learn a new language.
Means: Slowly, but surely learn a new language. Haven’t chosen one yet, but maybe it’ll be learn more Vietnamese, French, Old English, or even Sign Language
8. Ends: Break the Chain.
Means: Do something unordinary. Don’t stick the schedule every week. It would broaden my experience of life, and open my doors to the future. Essentially means, TRY NEW THINGS in life!
9. Ends: Forget Goals and Live for the Now
Means: Thus far, I’ve been SOOOOOOO Goal-Oriented. This doesn’t mean to not have goals, but to not dwell on things in the future but more-so of the present. Don’t focus all my energy on achieving a goal, but instead continue living and doing things that make the world a better place.
10. Ends: Stop jumping to conclusions.
Means: I shouldn’t assume I know what is going to happen. For instance, I shouldn’t not do something because I think something else would happen as a direct causal effect of it. Don’t assume or make an ass out of anyone . Accept criticisms and improve oneself based on it.
11. Ends: Don’t dramatize or over-generalize.
Means: Failure. or anything of the sort. Some sort of defeat, IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD ! Lambda Chi. Camp Kesem. Who cares. Just move on with your life. Don’t make a big deal out of one event.
12. Ends: Don’t Invent Rules.
Means: You don’t NEED anything in life, in particular. Don’t make things up as they go along. Hierarchy of Needs? Throw it out.
13. Ends: Avoid stereotyping.
Means: Don’t judge people before you meet them essentially. I don’t actually do this, but I can reduce racist comments by a mile.
14. Ends: No to perfection.
Means: Avoid trying to be “perfect”. Just strive for the best. Perfection is a fabrication/a ruse. a fallacy.
15. Ends: Don’t take things so personally.
Means: Don’t allow people to affect my happiness based on what they think about me. Move on, and be myself.
16. Ends: Don’t take emotions seriously.
Means: Emotions don’t indicate ANYTHING. Just because you feel something, doesn’t mean it’s true. Emotions can be from other incorrect factors such as hunger or annoyance. And even if feelings are true, they’re not the truth. Life goes on.
17. * Ends: Do not chase girls.
Means: Give up the chase. To, benefit from not having to worry about the effects of failure. & To establish a state of independence as re-defined by #1
18. Ends: Be myself.
Means: I shouldn’t be ashamed of who I am. Increase my self-esteem essentially to create a better environment around me.
19. Ends: Learn a new talent/hobby.
Means: Guitar? Something to consume my time with. Something to keep me busy, motivated, and make me happy.
20. Ends: Spend more time with Family & Friends.
Means: Communication! Get closer to the friends I already know, and close to the people I don’t. Meet people. Socialize. Throw myself out out there.
21. Ends: Take chances.
Means: Listen to Rachel Berry’s “Taking Chances”. Throw myself out there to the world, and if I get bitten, I will move on by not dramatizing. And if I do get what I want, then I’ll remind myself why I took chances in the first place.
22. Ends: Stick to a budget.
Means: Don’t overspend. Start saving up. The economy’s in turmoil, and everyone, EVERYONE needs to pay for the 32% UC fee increase.
23. Ends: Have more patience.
Means: Do not raise my voice or get angry. Assess the whole situation first. Make a conscious choice to lift people up rather than tear them down. Patience = more success.
24. Ends: Don’t hang onto the past. Let go and move on.
Means: As 2010, and a new decade approaches, I will look to the present and beyond for happiness.